Vibrators for Beginner Blog Post at SugarX

New to Sex Toys? How to Pick the Best First Vibrator (Vulva Edition)

July 20, 2025

So you’re thinking about buying your first vibrator? This is so exiting! You’re about to unlock a whole new world of pleasure, sensation, and connection (with yourself or a partner). Whether you’re feeling curious, cautious, or full-on giddy, SugarX is here to help you figure it out.

Let’s talk vibrators, baby! We are going to cover why you'd want a vibrator, how to pick the right one for you, and the little details that make all the difference.

Why Buy a Vibrator?

Pleasure – You deserve it. Full stop.

Body Exploration – Vibrators help you discover what feels good in a way that’s empowering and fun.

Stress Relief – Orgasms release feel-good hormones. Consider this an investment in your mental health.

Intensify Partner Play –Many vibrators make incredible additions to partnered sex.

Easier Orgasms - Vibrators enhance sexual pleasure, increase arousal and generally make achieving the big O easier. If you have a harder time orgasming for any reason (ex. antidepressants, birth control, hormones, etc.), vibrators might just be the key to help you find your happy ending.

What to Consider When Buying Your First Vibrator

1. Start Small (But Mighty)

You don’t need a giant wand—yet. Start with something unintimidating and less expensive like a bullet vibrator or a discreet external vibe to explore what kind of vibrations you are into before dropping the big bucks. These are beginner-friendly, budget-friendly, belong in any sex toy essentials tool kit, pack a pleasurable punch and are a great introduction into the different sensations vibrators can produce.

SugarX favorites for beginners:

Zeep by Cute Little Fuckers – small, fun, gender-neutral
Doxy Bullet – sleek, powerful, and oh-so discreet
Lovense Exomoon Lipstick Vibrator – cheeky lipstick design, lightweight, powerful

2. External vs. Internal Vibes

For your first vibe, external clitoral stimulation is usually the easiest and most approachable starting place. Internal vibrators like dildos or dual-stim toys can be amazing, but they can require more anatomical comfort and exploration first. That being said, if you feel comfortable diving right into the world of internal vibrations, go for it! Remember, this is all about what brings you pleasure.

3. Vibration Style Matters

Not all vibrations feel the same. Some are buzzy and surface-level, while others are deep and rumbly (Doxy Die Cast, we’re looking at you). Some even pulsate and recreate a sucking sensation (ex. Nami by Biird) If you’re sensitive or new to sensation, gentler settings and multiple speeds are essential.

Vibrator Bonus Features to Look For

🔋 Rechargeable – Because no one wants to hunt for batteries mid-session or mess around with wires
💦 Waterproof – For bath-time fun and easy cleaning
🎮 Multiple Speeds/Modes – Experiment without pressure. You might find that you need different levels of sensation based on where you are in your cycle or that you require greater sensation as your arousal heightens.
🎒 Travel-Friendly Size – If discretion and portability is your style

Let’s Talk Material (Because Safety = Sexy)

Your vibrator should be made of body-safe, non-porous materials like medical-grade silicone or ABS plastic. No jelly, no mystery textures. Your body deserves the best, and we only stock what we’d use ourselves. To learn more about the materials used to make sex toys see our blog post Material Matters: A Guide To Sex Toy Materials.

Vibrator FAQs for First-Timers

Q: Will it be too intense?
A: Not if you choose one with adjustable speeds (and start slow and low). Remember, you’re in control.

Q: What if I don’t orgasm right away?
A: Totally normal. It’s about pleasure, not pressure. Think of it as a joy ride, not a race. The more you explore pleasure, the more acquainted you become with your body and what feels good to you. Ultimately, you will be come an expert in your own pleasure.

Q: Can I use it with a partner?
A: Yes! Many vibrators double as amazing couple’s toys. Try them during foreplay, oral, or even strap-on play. Remember, vibrations feel good on all bodies, penises and vulvas alike!